Tuesday, 06 October 2009
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i guess it all depends on who molded you as a child.
I was in the Walmart the other day in humboldt, tennessee with my friend. i was still in my school uniform, she had changed into her ripped jeans converse, and scary t-shirt. My friend where's heavy eyeliner and has razor cut hair, she is the nicest person i know, and when she burps she eats it. But anyway, i started noticing as we were in cosmetics, we were getting old looks and strange stares, as she was going for the crazy stuff, i was going for the nuetrals and blues. I heard some woman pull her child away from the lip balm when she noticed my friend, and said in a harsh voice "get away from her!" i looked up with curiousity and notice she was clutching her cross necklace, and glared angrily at me and my friend, who was preoccupied with a new shade of purple lipstick.
i ignored this because katelynn and i usually got strange looks, from people because our styles differed greatly, and when we're together our clother are exact opposites. her favorite store is hot topic, and mine is, pacsun/ rue 21. So i wasn't mad at this woman, until i accidentally almost got run over by her small child in the halloween department, the little girl dropped her princess outfit on my shoes and we both ended up tripping and she fell on top of me. I appologized then told the little girl how pretty she was and that i had mistaken her fr a queen instead of a princess, her mother came shuffling after her daughter and yanked her up and said "don't spoil my child's mind with your satanist ways" then i showed her my crucifix and rosary. Now i was a little angry, but not so much as i would make her feel overly awkward.
Then me and my friend went to the electronics and looked at phone and movies, where someone else yanked there child away from our general vicinity.
I'm always in theses situations with my friends, when i'm with my palestinian bestie, when i'm with my multiracial metal crazed hyper-active pal or when i'm with a group of my friends who like their pants to sag a bit. i never really saw race or religion with anyone, it never bothered me. But i do have friend who won't chill with me when a certain person is there because of their race, religion, sexual orientation, and style. I always go on what my mother told me "did god make them?" if yes okay "Does god love his children?" if yes okay "Did jesus say love your neighbor as yourself" if yes okay. I guess its just how you're raised, that states whether you can be friends with someone or not.
That's why i try not to get overly angry at people who stereotype others, i just try to stay quiet and state the stuff mom told me. besides, all my friends are cool, and i like them, because we can be dorks together :)
Have you ever experienced this before? Has it been directed at you? What do you think about it?
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Comments (1)
You are definitely right! A lot of it just depends on how someone was raised. I saw a lot of behavior like that when I was a teenager. My friends dressed differently and I would be lectured by many people for hanging out with "satanists" when if they would have bothered to get to know those people they would have realized that those "satanists" were not at all, but rather were a group of poeple with diverse religious beleifs (some christians) and who all tried their best to live a good moral life and be kind to others.
But this is also something that is hard to teenagers to grasp also. How you dress DOES reflect on you. Whether you want it to or not, it will. People who are wearing all black or such are rebelling against society's rules of dress, and that is the first impression that is given: rebellion. While that might be the only rule of society that they are rebelling against, it still shows a certain willingness to reject the rules of society.
While assumptions are often wrong, when someone sees you for the first time, whether they want to or not, they are making an assumption about you. We make assumptions about people and things all the time without having all of the information. What is important is to realize that those assumptions are often wrong and give the person a chance anyway and to show them the respect that you would expect yourself :)